**** Disclaimer**** This is a letter that was written to my ex-husband. Sometimes he really doesn't think about the consequences of his actions.
(from the Greek, "to make suffer") is commonly defined as one's ability to recognize, perceive and directly experientially feel the emotion of another. As the states of mind, beliefs, and desires of others are intertwined with their emotions, one with empathy for another may often be able to more effectively define another's modes of thought and mood. Empathy is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes", or experiencing the outlook or emotions of another being within oneself, a sort of emotional resonance.Parenting
is the process of raising and educating a child from birth until adulthood. This is usually done in a child's family by the mother and/or father (i.e., the biological parents).
is a father or mother; one who begets or one who gives birth to or nurtures and raises a child or a relative who plays the role of a guardian. The parent or guardian usually watch out for their kid and love them
. Some, however, fail to do this, which is considered unacceptable in many societies.
The term adult
describes any mature organism, but normally it refers to a human: one that is no longer a child / minor and is now either a man or a woman. Adulthood can be defined in terms of biology, law, personal character, or social status. These different aspects of adulthood are often inconsistent and contradictory. A person may be biologically an adult, and have adult behavioral characteristics but still be treated as a child if they are under the legal age of majority. Conversely one may legally be an adult but possess none of the maturity and responsibility that define adult character.Grudge
a deep-seated feeling of resentment or rancor provoked by some incident or situation; for example, being unwilling to forgive someone.
I received and read about the respect. You have already read about empathy, parenting and definition of an adult.
There is serious lacking in all three areas.
You were to teach respect. Perhaps a lesson in HOW to teach is in order.
Parenting -- is a trial and error process, and one can learn how to be a better parent by learning from mistakes. I think you need to take Parenting 101 over again.
You should have had empathy. Perhaps you have not been shown empathy. But I am fairly certain you have and took it for granted as well, especially since I know I have tried repeatedly to be empathetic.
Adult. For that one I am at a loss.
Grudge - something I am discouraging in "C" by teaching him that the results of it can kill his creativity and ability to grow. Something you can benefit learning about as well. (By the way, I don't hold a grudge against you -- but the respect thing is still and may always be an issue.)
"C" has many lessons to learn. And I do not begrudge your email to him and me about "respect". The above definitions and words are things that I am going to make a point of teaching him, along with respect. He will be taught to show respect whether or not he thinks that the receiver "deserves" it, because it has to start with someone taking that first step. Every day is a new opportunity to show a level of respect to those whom you think do not deserve it. Yes, I have little to no respect for you for many reasons of which every time I talk to you via phone or email you show how little respect you have for others. We had started to build a sense of rapport in conversations up until you lied to me about the checks. That totally blew things up and destroyed any sense of respect that I had started to have toward you. Which is really sad.
**** End letter ****
Many blessings everyone.